How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Every relationship has its arguments and fallouts. Often they can be repaired and things go back to normal, but sometimes this is not possible and it ends in a break up.

If you are going through a break up and despite all the hurt and pain your ex has caused you, you really want to know how to get your ex girlfriend back, take a look at the advice below.

The first thing you should realise is that guys who have been dumped by their girlfriend tend to react and behave in a way that is totally opposite to the way they should be acting.

So, whatever your heart is telling you to do, do the complete opposite…


It may seem counterproductive seeing as you are trying to get her back in your life, but the biggest step after a break up is to have no contact with your ex girlfriend. Do not start any communication with her at all.

It is important that you leave your ex girlfriend alone. She needs some time and space to reflect on the relationship. Of course it will be extremely tough and it will kill you inside, but the chances are, it will be hurting her too.

By keeping out of her way, she is more likely to remember the good times in the relationship and will begin to miss you. When she realises this, she will contact you.


No matter how much you want your ex girlfriend back, you must not become clingly, needy and desperate. Do not make the mistake and call your ex 50 times a day or bombard their phone with texts. Women can’t stand needy guys. They will not be pressured, persuaded, tricked, or manipulated into getting back into a relationship. It will just repel your ex girlfriend even more.

Show your ex that you are capable of moving on but you do still care about her and have feelings for her. You will appear mature and become desirable to your ex girlfriend and she will realise that she hasn’t moved on and still loves you.


When your girlfriend breaks up with you it is natural to want to get across to her how much you love her, how much she means to you and you don’t want her to leave. You hope and pray that they can see how much you love and will come back to you.

Unfortunately it does not work this way.

By saying all of these things to your ex girlfriend, it is another way to show her you are needy. It just isn’t what she wants to hear right now.


Show your ex girlfriend that you have moved on by going out and socialising with friends and family. Not only will this keep your mind off the break up, but it will also build your confidence and make you feel better about yourself.

It is human nature to want to be around people who are fun and happy. So when your ex sees that you are positive after the break up, and you have not begged and pleaded to get back with her, she will be curious as to why. This will encourage her to get back in contact with you.


Before you get back together with your ex girlfriend it is vital that you talk about and work through any problems that you had in the relationship. She did not break up with you for no reason. There were obviously issues in the relationship, whether you knew about them or not.

You need to figure out what went wrong and how you can fix it to make the relationship better. If you don’t fix the problems, they will only crop up again and again and could lead to another break up. So, if you want to keep your ex, sort out the issue, discuss ways you can avoid the same problems recurring.

If you did something wrong, recognize your error, apologize sincerely to your ex girlfriend and show her you are willing to try and make things better.


The chances are your ex broke up with you because they didn’t like the way you were behaving or something that you said or did. You had changed and become a different person to the one they fell in love with in the first place. What has changed? What was it that they loved about you?

Maybe you think that they had become different. It is likely that both of you changed and you reacted to how the other changed. If you can find your old self, you will notice your ex doing the same.


Often girls will leave their man because of faded attraction. You can rekindle the relationship and rediscover that spark by taking her out on a date once a week. Get to know each other once more. Again, go back to how the relationship was at the beginning and learn from your mistake to make it a much better, happier relationship this time round.

Follow these steps and learn quickly how to get your ex girlfriend back.